Valentine's Day is here... here are some things I don't think you should do. Also I'm single... so take my advice with a grain of salt. Lol.
1) Text/ call your ex girlfriend- In High School I was on a pseudo date with a guy that just broke up with someone and it was a terrible date all in all... but the worst part was when I saw a text message from his ex girlfriend... there is no reason for you to be texting your ex on a first date because that will just make the person you're dating feel bad. So... yeah.
2) Talk about controversial topics- I sort of brought up something that I shouldn't have on a first date and then the guy sort of said he believed in a conspiracy theory... and that date actually went well... but when I tell my friends this story they're like "Yeah... thats weird Shannon." So even though I'm the exception to this rule because that relationship did last a long time... its not something I'd do again. I have a lot of weird first date experiences. It actually sort of made me like him more I think... he was open-minded and so am I and I like that in a person... so that's one good thing to learn early
on... and i was happy that he was comfortable enough to see that I was an open minded person... so I guess that's the weird exception to this rule... but its not something I'd bring up ever again on a first date... Lol.
3) Talk about a movie or tv show the other person hasn't seen- I heard an older couple on a first date last week... and it was going pretty well and I think everyone was okay... but the guy was talking about a movie that the woman hasn't seen in a long time... and thats not something you should really do. I'm sure it happens a lot when someone talks about a movie or tv show that the other person hasn't seen and its super awkward... but unless the movie you're talking about is Sleepaway Camp and you are convincing them that they 100% NEED to see sleepaway camp without giving away the ending of Sleepaway camp... you shouldn't be talking about a movie the other person hasn't seen. If they ask favorite movies or tv shows, definitely tell them... but don't go recreating scenes to a movie they haven't seen and don't care about. If you're at their house or something and you see something you know is one of their favorite shows or movies, you can ask to watch it... but if I was out on a date with someone that reenacted the entire Entourage movie... no.
4) If you're going to a halloween party together, don't wear something scary- This is kind of a hilarious story. When I was a freshman I liked this guy and we went to a halloween party together and I was dressed as a sexy cop... and he put on this really weird mask... and its just like "what." Like it wasn't terrible or anything... and again, this guy is a nice guy... but it wasn't exactly a turn on. Lol. I'm also not really a "party" girl and that was just a weird experience for me... so I was probably much weirder on that date than he was... but this is still something I wouldn't recommend. Don't do like a boner costume either... those are just gross... I have a lot of halloween rules that I think are strict. I saw a sexy lobster costume this year... so yeah. Lol.
I think thats everything that I can definitively say is never really a good idea to do on a first date. Lol. Take it or leave it... 3 of these are real things that happened to me... and 2 of those guys are 2 super nice guys... and the other one is just kind of the worst. Haha! If you're reading this and we kind of dated, you're probably one of the nice ones. Lol I wasn't going to make this personal... but I felt like these were the most useful ways I could explain stuff. And it is mostly my fault... except for high school guy. But to be fair... all high school guys are idiots. And he might be slightly less of an idiot now.
Hope this was helpful... and if you're like "hey, I like my scary costumes, I don't care if a girl is coming with me... she'll just have to be scared." or "Hey I have a lot of strong opinions about The Walking Dead, and I don't care whether someone watches them or not... I'm going to talk about it." That's fine. If its meant to be they'll accept you for it... but you've been warned.
Byeee!
-Shannon
1) Text/ call your ex girlfriend- In High School I was on a pseudo date with a guy that just broke up with someone and it was a terrible date all in all... but the worst part was when I saw a text message from his ex girlfriend... there is no reason for you to be texting your ex on a first date because that will just make the person you're dating feel bad. So... yeah.
2) Talk about controversial topics- I sort of brought up something that I shouldn't have on a first date and then the guy sort of said he believed in a conspiracy theory... and that date actually went well... but when I tell my friends this story they're like "Yeah... thats weird Shannon." So even though I'm the exception to this rule because that relationship did last a long time... its not something I'd do again. I have a lot of weird first date experiences. It actually sort of made me like him more I think... he was open-minded and so am I and I like that in a person... so that's one good thing to learn early
on... and i was happy that he was comfortable enough to see that I was an open minded person... so I guess that's the weird exception to this rule... but its not something I'd bring up ever again on a first date... Lol.
3) Talk about a movie or tv show the other person hasn't seen- I heard an older couple on a first date last week... and it was going pretty well and I think everyone was okay... but the guy was talking about a movie that the woman hasn't seen in a long time... and thats not something you should really do. I'm sure it happens a lot when someone talks about a movie or tv show that the other person hasn't seen and its super awkward... but unless the movie you're talking about is Sleepaway Camp and you are convincing them that they 100% NEED to see sleepaway camp without giving away the ending of Sleepaway camp... you shouldn't be talking about a movie the other person hasn't seen. If they ask favorite movies or tv shows, definitely tell them... but don't go recreating scenes to a movie they haven't seen and don't care about. If you're at their house or something and you see something you know is one of their favorite shows or movies, you can ask to watch it... but if I was out on a date with someone that reenacted the entire Entourage movie... no.
4) If you're going to a halloween party together, don't wear something scary- This is kind of a hilarious story. When I was a freshman I liked this guy and we went to a halloween party together and I was dressed as a sexy cop... and he put on this really weird mask... and its just like "what." Like it wasn't terrible or anything... and again, this guy is a nice guy... but it wasn't exactly a turn on. Lol. I'm also not really a "party" girl and that was just a weird experience for me... so I was probably much weirder on that date than he was... but this is still something I wouldn't recommend. Don't do like a boner costume either... those are just gross... I have a lot of halloween rules that I think are strict. I saw a sexy lobster costume this year... so yeah. Lol.
I think thats everything that I can definitively say is never really a good idea to do on a first date. Lol. Take it or leave it... 3 of these are real things that happened to me... and 2 of those guys are 2 super nice guys... and the other one is just kind of the worst. Haha! If you're reading this and we kind of dated, you're probably one of the nice ones. Lol I wasn't going to make this personal... but I felt like these were the most useful ways I could explain stuff. And it is mostly my fault... except for high school guy. But to be fair... all high school guys are idiots. And he might be slightly less of an idiot now.
Hope this was helpful... and if you're like "hey, I like my scary costumes, I don't care if a girl is coming with me... she'll just have to be scared." or "Hey I have a lot of strong opinions about The Walking Dead, and I don't care whether someone watches them or not... I'm going to talk about it." That's fine. If its meant to be they'll accept you for it... but you've been warned.
Byeee!
-Shannon
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