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Bridesmaid Diaries:Tips for finding a Wedding Dress and helping the bride find her dress

Heyyy guys! I think I've mentioned it on this blog before, but my sister just got engaged and I'm her maid of honor and I thought it'd be cool to kind of do a blog series about being a bridesmaid and like helping with weddings and stuff to. Right now I'm going to focus on choosing a dress. I don't have my bridesmaid dress yet, but my sisters tried on dresses and she has one and I kind of thought I'd let you guys know some tips about finding the dress from a bridesmaid perspective

Its not how it looks on tv 

On TV it always seems like the girl cries when she sees herself in the dress and her mom cries and her mother in law cries and its all just the most beautiful thing in the entire world... but thats not every bride. I don't cry that often. I cried when I heard my sister was getting engaged and seeing her after she got engaged with the ring and everything... but genuinely I don't cry a lot. My sister looked absolutely gorgeous in every dress she tried on, but I didn't get emotional about it and neither did she. The dress she ended up with, you could tell she was the happiest with it on.

As for the mothers crying... its an emotional time for your mom and your mother in law... so they might tear up even if the dress isn't right for you. They also might not cry, and thats okay to. As long as you feel beautiful in the dress and you can picture yourself getting married to the love of your life in this dress... thats all that matters.

Keep The Venue in Mind 

This is something that the consultant's working at bridal shops help with also. They've usually been doing this for a while and they know the different venues and what dresses work with them. If you're having an outdoor wedding in the summer, consider the weather. You don't want anything to heavy or anything. They also pick different designs based on the venue... for me personally... I don't know any of this stuff... but when I saw it I was like "Ohhh my gosh that will look gorgeous outside by the garden" and "Wow the white on that dress makes your ring look really shiny and pretty!" Its very nice.

Listen to the Consultant 

Another good point is to listen to the style consultant person working there. He or She will know a lot about what other brides have worn and how it worked on them and what other people are doing. They know the styles, they know whats in and whats out and will help you find whatever it is you want. They are like fairy godmothers that pick out the perfect dresses for you. They're wonderful at their jobs and... its just cool to see them in action. If you're a bridal consultant... you are amazing. Lol.

Price Doesn't really matter 
You don't have to get the most expensive dress ever! You can if its in your budget, but if it isn't in your budget, you don't need an expensive dress to be nice and good quality. I know there are people that want an expensive dress so that they can pass it on to their children... but thats kind of like taking a chance on something. Your children might not want to use it, it might not be in style any more at the time... it might not hold up even if it is expensive... you might not have kids and you might not have a daughter, maybe they won't get married, maybe there won't be dresses at their wedding... there are just a lot of factors into that, that I don't really think you need to think of... and I'm sure more affordable dresses that hold up nicely anyway... Just something I thought I'd mention.

Its your wedding and his wedding... do what makes you guys happy but keep others in mind 
Ultimately the bride has the final say in the dress... but don't forget about your fiancé. I don't necessarily think that the groom should be with the bride choosing a dress just in case they fall in love with different ones... and its hard to see a girl in a ton of dresses that she looks beautiful in and choose a favorite and help her choose a favorite... but if there is something your fiancé doesn't like keep that in mind. For example I like pink dresses a lot. I think they look really feminine and would look good with a lot of people, especially for an outdoor wedding and sometimes a different color than white makes the lace pop a little more, if its very subtle I think it looks gorgeous. I also understand, not everyone likes pink dresses and if my Significant Other or his parents or my parents didn't want a pink dress... I probably wouldn't get that. Really it is the bride and groom's wedding... but there are other people involved too... so they should be considered as well. Its one thing if you always picture yourself in a pink dress... then I would say try to explain why you like it and reason with them... but I think you should kind of understand that other people matter to.


Regardless... he will love your dress and I think the most important thing you can ask yourself is do I see myself marrying the love of my life in this dress... because ultimately that is what it is. And there are lots of different dresses and different styles. Some like poofy and frilly, others like something more simple, some like lace, some like silk, red, pink, blue yellow... it doesn't matter. Really what matters is you marrying the love of your life in something that you can remember for the rest of your life. And I just kind of want to use this blog to spread the love a little bit. Right? Thats what weddings are about and thats why people love them. So yeah!!!

Byeeee!
-Shannon


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