Sooo this is a story that happened my freshman year of High School when I was bullied by mostly a group of boys who would call me "Betty" because Ugly Betty had just debuted and I did kind of look like her when I was in High School. I had glasses and messy hair... that's about it I think... but I did probably look like her. I didn't think I was Ugly... but when other people tell you you are... it's not the best thing in the world.
Anyway I'm telling this story because it's a story where I felt like I was particular strong and overall... I'm proud of how I handled things in general really... but I think this is a more positive example.
So like I said, I was mostly bothered by a group of boys, but there were a few girls that weren't particularly nice to me either and one that called me betty quite a lot.
Anyway- a bit about this girl... I think my first memory of this girl was at an assembly she sat in front of me at a crowded bleacher on an assembly. I mean it was like the whole class on a few bleachers so it was pretty crowded- you guys probably understand how there is limited leg room or space when you're sitting in bleachers. It was either this girl or one of her friends that were doing each other's hair in the bleachers and they kept hitting my legs while they were doing this. Total disregard of other people's personal space... and that annoyed me right off the gate. She was in a few of my classes after that and my initial feelings of annoyance were only further confirmed.
But she was on a team and this team was selling cheesecakes for a fundraiser. And my best friend was on this team and I bought cheesecakes from her. The Hair girl knew that I was best friends with someone else on the team and she probably should have guessed that I had already bought cheesecakes... but I think this girl was just oblivious to the fact that there's a world out there besides her. Maybe it was just immaturity or something- hopefully she's changed since then...but she was very self involved.
Anyway... she went to my locker to try to sell me this stuff... "Betty, Betty, Betty. BETTY! Oh my god, is she deaf or something? BETTY!!!!"
"That's not my name."
"Oh... Shannon, would you like to buy cheesecake from me."
"Really? After you just called me Betty, you think I'm going to buy cheesecake from you?"
And then I left. Actually I might have just said a polite, "No" but for any of my young readers who may need to deal with this situation- I'd say go with the sassier approach! As long as it's something that won't get you in trouble.
So my lesson here... be careful how you treat people because chances are you'll need their help some day and they won't help you if you treat them crapily. Also you don't have to take crap from people and you can do it in a way that won't get you in trouble and it won't hurt anyone else's feelings. I doubt this girl is going to ever read this post... and even if she does- I'm sure she won't realize that it's her I'm talking about in this post because when someone says something negative- people aren't all that self aware.
And yeah I'm sure the girl sold enough cheesecakes for the team and I'm sure that it didn't matter all that much in the long run. Plus I did buy cheesecakes from my friend and it went to the same place- so that doesn't really matter... and it's not like she stopped picking on me then... but still! I stood up for myself and it was all good!
I hope this helps anyone going through a similar situation. These aren't my favorite memories ever... and I know I was unhappy these days that the events actually did happen... but now as an adult I can look back on this situation and write on it with no issues... so it does get better!
Bye!
-Shannon
"That's not my name."
"Oh... Shannon, would you like to buy cheesecake from me."
"Really? After you just called me Betty, you think I'm going to buy cheesecake from you?"
And then I left. Actually I might have just said a polite, "No" but for any of my young readers who may need to deal with this situation- I'd say go with the sassier approach! As long as it's something that won't get you in trouble.
So my lesson here... be careful how you treat people because chances are you'll need their help some day and they won't help you if you treat them crapily. Also you don't have to take crap from people and you can do it in a way that won't get you in trouble and it won't hurt anyone else's feelings. I doubt this girl is going to ever read this post... and even if she does- I'm sure she won't realize that it's her I'm talking about in this post because when someone says something negative- people aren't all that self aware.
And yeah I'm sure the girl sold enough cheesecakes for the team and I'm sure that it didn't matter all that much in the long run. Plus I did buy cheesecakes from my friend and it went to the same place- so that doesn't really matter... and it's not like she stopped picking on me then... but still! I stood up for myself and it was all good!
I hope this helps anyone going through a similar situation. These aren't my favorite memories ever... and I know I was unhappy these days that the events actually did happen... but now as an adult I can look back on this situation and write on it with no issues... so it does get better!
Bye!
-Shannon
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